He's Just Not that into You

So I just went out with Heather, Jordan, Winnie, Kelsey, and Christine to color me mine. I think it's actually a really cute place, you pick out some pottery and paint it however you want. I just made a mug. Then, I went to Shoots with them, which is a restaurant Winnie's family owns. It was really very good. Then Bre and Katrina joined us and Kelsey left and we watched He's Just Not that into You at the dollar theater. And that is what this entry is about.

It was literally one of the most thought provoking movies I have ever seen. I am literally re-evaluating all the relationships, romantic and not so much, that I have ever had or almost had. I don't think I'm really like any of the women in that movie, but I feel like they epitomize some of the problems women have with men. And I also thought it was a slap in the face. It was a reality check times a million. I think every girl should watch it, because I can think of a lot of girls who need to realize this. It is not anything like your regular chick flick that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy at the end because he really was into the girl, and they are going to live happily ever after. Because that’s not really how it works.

I thought it was so ridiculously realistic it was almost painful to watch. Like everything the girls in that movie say to their friends to make them feel better about a guy are things I’ve told my friends or I have been told. But, the real reason was he just wasn’t that into them. Or me.

And that was depressing because how many guys actually haven’t been into me or them and we deluded ourselves to believe they were? What if no one ever really liked us? What if they were just trying to let us down easy, or had no idea what was going on because they didn’t really care at all? I feel like this movie shows everything we already know, but don’t believe, or don’t allow ourselves to believe. How we convince ourselves either that he is telling the truth, and does like us but just needs time. Or how we convince ourselves that he is lying and really, underneath all of that not calling or taking us out, he really does like us. Somewhere deep down inside.

Because clearly, if he doesn’t call, he doesn’t wanna talk to us, and he is just not that into us. But we don’t care, because we still believe in all the lies we tell ourselves and each other without even realizing it. We totally feed the fire for it. Whenever I have said that to a girl, I think I believed it. But it’s because that’s how we are trained our entire life; if a guy treats us like crap, it’s because he likes us. Really girls?! But we totally believe it.

Like, I have tons of girls who I talk to about their relationship or non- relationship drama, and as I go through all of them now, my view is totally changing. Because maybe, it’s not that he’s just confused or stupid or needs time or is intimidated or lost your number or was busy or is shy or just got out of a serious relationship or has never been in a relationship. Maybe, he’s just not that into us.